ADULTING WITH FASD
Who says Time Outs are for kids only? I have noticed, as I have aged, become a full time employee, a few times, gotten married, had children, and LIFE has fallen into my lap, and keeps plopping and plooping, my stress level is NOT what it once was. Nope. Not even close. I have gotten pretty good at reading my body's ques, and what it needs at times. One thing I have come to know is I, like many kids, need time outs. Not just one, maybe one a week, a day, a month, it just depends what is going on. How fast my mind is swirling with every thought of everything I want to accomplish that day. Now, my time out does not involve a "time out chair," or "time out stairs." It does involve a "time out" closet though. My youngest son's to be exact. It feels like it is sound proof. I have been in there twice in 8 years, but i go in there, and i go through his clothes. I pile them onto me. The weight as more and more plop down, I can feel my stress level decreasing. Add that with the sound of silence, and "thick" silence, if that makes sense, and it becomes tranquility.
I have a desk job, and my stress level can rise quickly at my job. I deal with medical claims from car accidents. I deal with fraud. Lots of it. I deal with multitasking, and it can get hairy. Well, I figured out in the blustery cold winters of upstate, NY, I could put my heavy winter jacket over my legs as a makeshift weighted blanket. It worked. Stress level would decrease. I could definitely use more time outs.
When i was diagnosed with FAS at age 34, my brain reeled backwards through the years of my life, and the "quirky" things i used to do. Like play "Meatball Sandwich" with my older brother. I would lay myself in between a Flip and Fold Chair, and my brother would jump on top of it, Yelling, "Meatball Sandwich." I loved it. Never knew why. Turns out I loved the pressure. Mademe feel tranquil and whole. I am definitely a sensory person. Bring on the time outs, for me, it is not a punishment. It centers me. What about you all? Do you engage in "self Time Outs" for sensory centering? Not sure what to call it. Sensory seeking behavior? That sounds right. Let me know! Drop a comment!
I am an adult living with aFetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder. As an adult with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome, I am constantly searching for sites that share in my quirkiness, and answer my questions i have about adults living on the spectrum. Take a peek at my blogs! They describe daily quirks, and ideas for parents, educators, children and adults living with FASDs.